When He Wants Out
 The announcement of a wedding is a prelude to an excited flurry of activities but not all couples make it to the altar date because someone opts out after some soul searching. This is a dilemma because of the humiliation and pain it will bring; and whoever wants out suffers too.
If your fiancé wants out, it would be hard for him to tell it straight like it is because he knows how much this will hurt you and your families. Instead of talking things out, he will behave differently, much to your dismay.
He will evade your questions but his actions will speak for him. If he used to be affectionate, and made jokes about the groomsman gift you have bought together, he'll be distant and remote the next moment. He will call to say he's sorry and promise he'll call that night, but he didn't. If he takes to drink and becomes testy when you ask him what's wrong, you have a problem on your hands.
Opt in or Opt Out?
True, the wedding invitations have been sent out and some of the money you have advanced for the ring bearer gifts may not be fully refunded; but these things can be dealt with; the issue is your feelings; but being dumped now by a fiancé is better than being betrayed and divorced by a husband later.
If your fiancé explains he is just jittery, consider that. But if his behavior of loving you one moment and ignoring you for the next few days has put you off, take it as a sign that this man can treat you much worse when you are married.
If the only thing holding you back from calling off the wedding is the shame of it all and the loss of the money advanced for the wedding expenses, you are risking your future. Follow that persistent voice at the back of your head that is telling you to get out fast. You can give him the engraved pocket watches you have bought so let him take the "spoils" of war and run for your life. |
